Since becoming a mom, I’ve struggled with the guilt that comes with allowing time for my own self-care. But in the 2 1/2 years that I’ve been a member of the motherhood tribe, I’ve realized that without taking care of my self and giving myself the freedom to relax and recharge, I can’t give my family the best version of me.
As the saying goes, “you can’t pour from an empty cup”. Without allowing myself to do those things that help me take a step back from being a wife and mom, I’m not going to be the best version of myself. Here’s what I found to be some of the best ways to practice self-care.
Get some sleep
It can be so hard to wind down after a long day of running around and trying to make sure everything on that ever expanding to-do list is getting done. A good night’s sleep truly does make the day easier. The hubs and I took the TV out of our room years ago to help limit distractions around bedtime. I try to put my phone down by 9pm every night so I can let my mind relax. I’ve also given myself a bedtime routine similar to my son’s. No food after 8:30pm, shower, quiet time, and then lights out. By creating a more calming space, I’m able to release some of the stress from the day and go to bed at a reasonable hour.
Exercising isn’t everyone’s cup of tea and I NEVER thought I’d be that person waking up super early to to make it to my 5:30am workout class. Some days I truly hate getting up so early. But honestly, after my workout classes I feel so much better about myself. I can feel my body getting stronger and have a general sense of just being healthier. In the long run, having a healthier lifestyle is one of my biggest forms of self-care.
Often times we feel stressed because we just have too much to do. Between scheduling ladies night, date night and family time, I can end with every weekend filled with something to do. Sometimes we just have to say no. Without the guilt. No, I can’t make it to that birthday party or happy hour. No is a complete sentence too. Don’t feel like you own anyone an explanation.
I recognize that this comes from an extreme place of privilege, but if you have the means and the support, plan a trip. One of the best ways to relax and recharge is through a change of scenery. In this episode of the Swirl & Sip Podcast, we talk about how traveling can help recharge your relationship! If you can’t travel, try to go to a park or library. Sit for 5 minutes and enjoy what’s around you. Even take those small moments to yourself can recharge your battery.
Pay attention to who’s in your circle
We may not realize it but our friends and family can sometimes be our biggest drainers. I’ve had friends and family that offer nothing but negative energy and my self-care means limiting or removing any time I spend with them. Sometimes “sucking it up and dealing with it” for a couple of hours to placate a spouse or partner isn’t okay and can be causing more damage than we need. Remove those people from your life and you’ll instantly see your spirits lifted and feel a more positive vibe all around.