Your wedding vows are such a special part of your ceremony program. It’s a personal exchange that can mean so much at the moment and the words can create an impact that lasts a lifetime. If you and your partner decide to write your vows, it can add a little bit of pressure when you think of it that way. No need to sweat it! We are breaking down some must-haves in your vows to help you write the best stuff you’ve got.
Include a memory
Bring people into the history of your relationship and remind your spouse of the good stuff. Share a funny moment, a time that strengthened your love for one another or a great trip you had. Try to keep it light and skip the inside jokes. Your wedding guests may not understand, and the joke may miss the mark.
Imagine the path ahead
Tell your loved one about the things you are most excited for in the years to come. Whether it is kids, a house, a new experience or the fact that you never to have find a roommate again – incorporate those tidbits into your vows.
Make some promises
Marriage is a give and take, something that is a given with most relationships. Tell your spouse all of the things you promise to do to keep your marriage stable and loving. Things like take out the trash without asking, care for them when they are sick or stressed or remember the big stuff like anniversaries and the little things like their favorite television show.
Thank your spouse for their love.
It takes two to tango, and it takes two to get a relationship to a wedding ceremony. Thank your spouse for all of the love they have shown you during your dating relationship. Think back on a time where you needed them the most or an expected surprise they set up to show how much they cared for you. Think of the things that your relationship was built on. While you may have to say thank you in those moments, it will be nice for your loved one to be reminded of the impact those acts of kindness had on your time together.
Each relationship is so incredibly unique, and your version of vows will undoubtedly be a one-of-a-kind thing while these tips are a great place to start! Take some time to create something that best reflects and encompasses your love for one another. Another tip is to keep your writing to yourself! Don’t share with your spouse before the big day. A trusted friend or family member may be a good reference, but make sure to keep things under wraps before the ceremony!