If you’ve been around for awhile, you know that the hubs and I have been together for a long time. This month we’ll be celebrating four years of marriage. This August we’ll be celebrating seventeen years of being together. Relationships are hard. Being with the same person for almost two decades is a challenge. Here’s what I’ve learned in the seventeen years of loving the same person.
People Change
The hubs and I met when we were in high school. He had just turned seventeen and I was three months shy of my own seventeenth birthday. We were kids. We’re now in our early thirties with a kid and that means we’re definitely different people than we were then. Relationships can be such a challenge when two people meet in their adult years. Going and growing through high school, college, and adulthood was a struggle for us. And if I expected him to be the same person I met as a kid, I’d be highly disappointed. We’ve both changed as people and learning to fall back in love with a new version of the same person is something that I’ve had to do several times throughout our relationship.
Less But More Meaningful Conversations
Now I don’t mean that my hubby and I don’t talk. We definitely do. But our conversations are a lot different now. There are so many times we’re my husband will say something and I’ll have had that same thought at the same time. And it goes both ways. The longer you’ve been together, the more likely you are to start thinking the same thoughts. So it sometimes makes conversations less necessary. But many of out conversations end up being more in-depth or thought provoking. Since we’re been around for so many of our life moments, we can skip a lot of that stuff and get to the “life” discussions.
You Fall in Love Over and Over Again
Because my husband and I are different than we were five and even ten years ago, we’ve gotten to re-learn and fall in love with each other all over again. As we develop new interests, travel the world together, and experience the joys and challenges or raising our son, we grow as people and experience each other in different ways. Although I miss so things about the seventeen year old version of my husband, I’ve more in love with the thirty-three year old man that’s an amazing father. I know that as we continue to grow old together, I’ll fall in love with every version of him along the way.
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